Strap-on Dildo

What is a Strap-On Dildo?

The world of intimate accessories reveals new possibilities to experience pleasure and connection. A strap-on dildo combines two key components: a dildo and a harness system that attaches to the wearer's body. This combination lets the wearer penetrate their partner without using their hands during intimate moments.

Definition and simple components

The strap-on dildo system works with two key parts:

• Harness: This piece holds the dildo against the wearer's body, usually around the waist or hips. You'll find different styles like jockstrap (straps around the waist and over each buttock), thong style (a strap between the legs), and underwear-style options that look like boxers or briefs. Most harnesses use an O-ring where the dildo fits.

• Dildo: This penetrative attachment connects to the harness. The WeLovePlugs offers countless options with different sizes, shapes, textures, and materials that match individual needs. The dildo's flared base works with the harness O-ring to stay firmly against the wearer's pubic area.

Some models feature vibrators (internal or external) that pleasure the wearer during use. Other designs skip the harness entirely by staying in place through insertion into the wearer's vagina.

Who uses strap-ons and why

Strap-on play stands out because everyone can enjoy it. These toys welcome people of all genders and sexual orientations, contrary to what many believe. Yes, they work well with many relationship dynamics:

Women might use them with female partners to experience penetrative sex, with male partners to explore "pegging" (anal penetration), or by themselves. Men sometimes use them when dealing with erectile dysfunction, trying double penetration, or wanting to feel what it's like to have a different sized or shaped penis.

People choose strap-ons for many reasons. Couples love how these toys:

• Leave hands free to touch and caress
• Let them explore gender roles
• Make penetration possible when anatomy doesn't allow it
• Help those with erectile challenges
• Build trust through shared discovery

Trans individuals, especially trans men, might find strap-ons helpful in expressing their gender identity.

Common misconceptions

Many myths about strap-on use come from confusion about sexuality and gender. Let's look at the facts:

Myth: Only lesbian couples use strap-ons. Truth: These toys bring pleasure to people regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. Heterosexual couples, same-sex partners, and people of various gender expressions all enjoy them.

Myth: Men who enjoy receiving strap-on penetration are gay. Truth: Sexual activities never define orientation. Many straight men enjoy anal play because prostate stimulation (sometimes called the "male G-spot") feels amazing. Sexual orientation relates to attraction, not activities.

Myth: Women who use strap-ons want to be men. Truth: Using a strap-on says nothing about gender identity. Some people might include strap-ons in gender play, while others simply enjoy the unique sensations without any connection to gender.

Myth: Strap-ons only work with partners. Truth: These adaptable toys work great for solo play too. They can attach to furniture or other surfaces for self-pleasure.

Clear understanding of strap-ons and their users helps break down stigma and encourages open discussions about different ways to experience pleasure.

Types of Strap-On Dildos

The world of strap-on dildos has a wide range of options that match different priorities, needs, and desires. You'll find everything from lifelike models to fantasy-inspired creations, and each type brings its own unique sensations to intimate play.

Realistic strap-on dildos

Realistic strap-on dildos look and feel just like an actual penis. These models come with anatomical details like pronounced heads, veins, and sometimes testicles. Many people love these lifelike toys because they create authentic experiences during intimate moments.

The soft exterior feels like real skin, making the experience as natural as possible. These dildos can be very affirming if you have gender-related concerns, and they help reduce dysphoria during sexual encounters. These realistic strap-ons can also improve gender-affirming experiences whether worn alone or with a partner.

Some realistic models include suction features or extra additions that improve sensation. "Pack 'n Play" dildos serve two purposes – they work as a packing penis for daily wear and as a penetrative toy during intimate moments.

Non-realistic and fantasy styles

Non-realistic dildos, also called non-phallic dildos, are perfect for people who want something different from traditional penis shapes. These toys range from colorful tentacle dildos to completely abstract designs.

People choose non-phallic dildos for many reasons. Some like how they look, while others feel more at ease with abstract shapes instead of realistic ones. This category keeps growing with new options for creative exploration.

Vibrating strap-on options

Vibrating strap-ons mix penetration pleasure with extra vibration stimulation. Motors in the shaft or base create vibrations during use. Modern options often come with wireless remote controls, which makes hands-free operation and quick adjustments easy during intimate moments.

Advanced models feature:

• Multiple motors that target different pleasure points at once
• Various vibration patterns and intensity levels
• Rechargeable batteries for convenience
• Flexible, bendable designs for personal fit and targeted stimulation

These vibrating strap-ons improve the experience by a lot for both partners. The receiver gets internal stimulation while the wearer often enjoys clitoral stimulation.

Strapless strap-ons

Strapless strap-ons bring a new approach to hands-free pleasure. Unlike regular harness models, the wearer's pelvic floor muscles hold these unique toys in place. They look like a capital letter "L" with a shorter bulb-shaped end (called a "saddle horn") that goes into the wearer's vagina.

Both partners experience penetration at the same time, creating a deep connection. The internal bulb hits the wearer's G-spot during thrusting. In spite of that, holding the toy steady needs strong pelvic floor muscles, especially in certain positions.

These strapless strap-ons work well with harnesses for extra stability. Open-back harnesses are best because they let you access both ends of the toy.

Double-ended dildos

Double-ended dildos let both partners enjoy penetration at the same time. Unlike strapless options, regular double dildos are usually long (18 inches or more) and straight. This design opens up creative position options that might not work with a harness.

Lesbian, queer, trans, and non-binary folks love these toys, and straight couples who enjoy pegging use them too. Both partners get to experience penetration together, which creates a unique shared pleasure.

Hollow strap-on penis

Hollow strap-ons first came about to help men with erectile dysfunction. These models have a hollow shaft where a penis fits inside, making penetrative sex possible no matter the erectile state.

People now use hollow strap-ons for many more reasons. They can add size, thickness, or help sessions last longer when stimulation might end too quickly. Some hollow designs curve perfectly to reach the G-spot or prostate.

LGBTQ+ couples use these versatile toys for role-play and temperature play. The slight compression makes them more comfortable for anal play than solid dildos.

Choosing the Right Strap-On Harness

The right strap-on harness makes all the difference to your comfort and pleasure. A secure foundation will make the experience enjoyable for everyone. Let's learn about what works best for your body and priorities, since there are so many options out there.

Boxer and brief harnesses

These underwear-style harnesses have caught on because they're comfortable and easy to use. They look just like regular underwear, from simple briefs to sexy panties, which makes them great for wearing longer. The soft fabric designs feel natural against your skin.

Here's why people love boxer and brief harnesses:

• They fit like regular underwear without straps, so the dildo feels more like part of your body
• The designs often include attractive touches like lace panels, ribbons, and corset-style lacing
• The price point works well if you're just starting out
• Some styles let you access the vulva or testicles for extra stimulation

But these harnesses do have their limits. They don't have adjustable straps, which means less control during active use. The dildo might lag during thrusting, so they're not ideal for rough play. On top of that, most underwear styles don't let you switch O-rings, which limits your dildo options.

Adjustable strap-on harnesses

If you want the most control and versatility, adjustable strap-style harnesses are your best bet. These come in two main types: thong style and jockstrap style.

Thong-style harnesses run a strap between the legs, which works better for people with vulvas. Jockstrap-style harnesses (also known as "two-strap" or "Texas two-strap") wrap around each buttock and the waist. These give you exceptional security and control. Men tend to prefer this style since it leaves room for the testicles.

Here's what makes adjustable harnesses great:

• You can get a precise fit using buckles, velcro, or other adjustable parts
• They stay stable during vigorous activities
• You can change O-rings to fit different dildo sizes
• They give you better control while thrusting

"You want your harness to fit you like a pair of jeans you'd wear to the club when you want someone to really check you out: It needs to be snug," explains sex educator Sloane. A well-fitted harness lets the dildo move like it's part of your body instead of feeling separate.

Thigh and alternative harnesses

Alternative placement harnesses create new ways to be intimate and accessible beyond traditional hip-mounted options. Thigh harnesses secure a dildo to your leg instead of your hips.

Thigh harnesses work great if you:

• Want to get physically closer to your partner during play
• Have lower back or hip pain that makes traditional thrusting tough
• Don't want to thrust with your hips
• Experience genital dysphoria

Creative alternative harnesses let you mount dildos on different body parts. Face harnesses, chest harnesses, and hand harnesses each bring unique sensations and possibilities. These options are great for power exchange play, group activities, and trying new angles of stimulation.

Plus-size and body-inclusive options

Everyone deserves a perfect-fitting strap-on harness whatever their body size or shape. WeLovePlugs now offers many plus-size options built for comfort and security.

When looking at plus-size harnesses, think about:

• Wide-backed harnesses or ones with corset backing that give extra support and adjustability
• Harnesses with sizes up to 5X
• Brief-style options that work well for larger bodies
• Getting your exact hip measurement before ordering

The SpareParts Joque harness comes highly recommended if you're plus-size. It's adjustable, machine-washable, and works for various body types. Its jock-style straps make it comfortable no matter your partner's body shape.

Note that your harness's comfort directly affects your experience. A poor fit can distract you, but the right one lets you focus completely on connecting with your partner.

How to Use a Strap-On Dildo

Learning to use a strap-on dildo takes practice, patience, and plenty of communication. You need to learn the simple steps to create pleasurable experiences, whether you're new to strap-on play or want to boost your experience.

Step-by-step guide for beginners

New strap-on users often feel awkward at first, which is perfectly normal. These steps will help you get started:

1. Prepare your equipment: Attach the dildo to your harness before putting it on. Standard harnesses need loose straps first. Step into the harness one leg at a time and pull it up to your waist.

2. Adjust for comfort: The straps should feel secure but not too tight. Your harness needs to stay in place during movement without pinching or restricting circulation.

3. Practice alone first: Take time to get used to wearing your strap-on before using it with a partner. Walk around your home, do everyday activities, or watch TV while wearing it. This creates a connection with your new appendage.

4. Get intimate with your toy: Try masturbating while wearing your strap-on to build a deeper connection. This helps you see the dildo as part of yourself rather than just an accessory.

5. Start slowly with a partner: Kiss and engage in foreplay while wearing your strap-on before attempting penetration. Your partner should touch and interact with the dildo to build anticipation.

Tips for comfort and control

You'll gain better control of your strap-on with practice. Here are some practical tips:

Guide the dildo with your hands, especially during initial penetration. Manual guidance prevents fumbling since you can't feel through the dildo.

Subtle movements work better than dramatic ones for first-time thrusters. Many beginners thrust too hard at first. The doggy-style position makes thrusting easier for newcomers because it needs less hip strength.

Communication plays a vital role in strap-on play. Your partner should give ongoing feedback about what feels good. Check in often. You'll need verbal guidance since you can't feel the dildo directly.

A properly fitted harness gives better control. Your harness might be too loose or the toy too long if your dildo moves too much.

Using lube for smoother play

Lubricant makes strap-on play comfortable and pleasurable. Both vaginal and anal penetration need lube, but anal play absolutely requires it since the anus doesn't self-lubricate.

The lube must match your dildo material to prevent damage to your toys:

• For silicone dildos: Water-based lubricants work best. Silicone-based lube can damage silicone toys. Water-based options clean easily from skin, fabrics, and toys.

• Amount matters: Apply plenty of lube to both the dildo and your partner's body. Add more whenever needed—you can never have too much lube for comfortable penetration.

Lube increases all sensations during sex and boosts pleasure for both partners. Smooth movements become easier, which matters since the wearer can't feel any uncomfortable friction.

Stay patient, keep talking openly, and enjoy learning this exciting way to connect with your partner during your strap-on adventures.

Exploring Pegging and Role Reversal

Role reversal through pegging is a chance to learn new dimensions of pleasure and intimacy. More people now find its physical and psychological benefits.

What is pegging?

Pegging refers to anal sex where one partner uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate the other anally. Sex advice columnist Dan Savage popularized this term in 2001 through a contest to name this specific act. The traditional definition involved a woman penetrating a man, but modern understanding now includes people of all genders and sexual orientations.

The basic concept involves anal penetration with a strap-on dildo, whatever the participants' gender identities. Most heteronormative couples see the female partner penetrating her male partner with a strap-on harness and attachable dildo.

The physical act brings psychological elements of power exchange. This role reversal adds meaning for couples who want to learn new relationship dynamics.

Benefits for both partners

Both participants get several advantages from pegging. The receiving partner with a prostate (found in most males) experiences intense sensations. The prostate, also known as the "male G-spot," sits 2-3 inches inside the anus. Good stimulation leads to powerful, full-body orgasms and sometimes hands-free ones.

The giving partner experiences these benefits:

• A feeling of control from taking the penetrative role
• The base of the dildo might stimulate their clitoris
• Breaking traditional gender roles brings psychological excitement
• They learn what it feels like to be the penetrator

Women often enjoy the confidence of wearing and controlling a strap-on penis. One person shared, "I love that it makes me feel powerful in a whole different way". Another said, "I get a lot of satisfaction out of making someone utterly melt with pleasure".

The emotional connection grows stronger through pegging. The receiving partner shows vulnerability, which builds trust between partners.

Beginner tips for anal play

New practitioners should prepare well. Talk openly about boundaries, desires, and expectations. Choose safe words so both partners can easily say if something feels wrong.

Staying clean matters too. A bathroom visit usually works fine, though some people prefer using an anal douche. Concerns about cleanliness are normal but education helps address them.

Lube plays a vital role in comfortable anal play. The anus doesn't self-lubricate, so lube becomes necessary. A thick water-based anal lubricant works best with silicone toys. Use plenty and add more when needed.

Physical preparation matters a lot. Before trying full penetration with a strap-on:

• Start with gentle external massage around the anal area
• Use a well-lubed finger before moving to toys
• Begin with smaller toys or plugs and slowly size up
• Learn breathing techniques – exhaling helps relax muscles during initial penetration

The receiver's prostate might feel sensitive afterward. This normal sensation goes away quickly. Clean all equipment thoroughly after use.

Strap-On Sex Positions and Techniques

Learning about different positions helps tap into the full potential of your strap-on experience. Each position creates unique sensations, angles, and intimacy levels that enhance your play sessions. You and your partner need some experimentation to find the right positions, but the results make the experience worthwhile.

Doggy style and spooning

Doggy style remains a favorite position among beginners and experienced strap-on users. The receiver gets on all fours while the wearer kneels behind them in this classic setup. This position lets you achieve deep penetration, and the wearer knows how to control thrusting depth and speed. The setup works great for anal penetration because it gives easy access and visibility. A pillow under the receiver's knees helps adjust the height differences.

Spooning gives you a more intimate, relaxed option that works great for beginners or when you want a gentler pace. Both partners lie on their sides and face the same direction, with the wearer behind the receiver. This side-by-side position lets you whisper encouraging words while keeping full-body contact. The receiver can lift their top leg, or the wearer can put their leg over the receiver's hips to get better access. Spooning excels at anal play because you can take things slow, which makes it less daunting for first-timers.

Face-to-face and standing

Face-to-face positions build deeper emotional bonds through eye contact and kissing. The missionary variation works well when the receiver lies on their back, sometimes with knees bent toward their chest for better access. The cowgirl position changes the dynamic by letting the receiver straddle the wearer and control depth and pace. The receiver can use this position to lean back and grab the wearer's thighs for maximum pleasure.

Standing positions add excitement and spontaneity for more adventurous play. The "Stand and Strap" technique starts with the receiver straddling the seated wearer before being lifted up with the dildo inserted. The wearer can press the receiver against a wall for extra intensity. This creates a steamy experience, though the wearer needs some strength. Height compatibility plays a key role, and shorter partners might need stable platforms for support.

Switching roles for mutual pleasure

Strap-on play lets both partners switch roles and experience different sensations. This role reversal helps each person understand both giving and receiving viewpoints, which deepens their commitment through shared experiences.

Bullet vibrators or base cushions in your strap-on setup enhance mutual stimulation during play. Many harnesses come with pockets that hold small vibrators to stimulate the wearer during thrusting. This creates a balanced experience where both partners feel direct pleasure at the same time.

Communication plays a vital role when changing positions. You should check comfort levels often, especially with new angles. The beauty of strap-on play shows in its versatility – you'll find a position for every mood, desire, and comfort level if you stay creative and open-minded.

Cleaning, Care, and Storage

Your strap-on dildo and harness will last much longer when you take good care of them. This also makes sure they stay safe to use. A quick clean after each use keeps everything hygienic and ready for next time.

How to clean silicone dildos

Silicone dildos need special attention to stay in great shape. Check if your dildo has any electronic parts first. Non-motorized silicone dildos give you several cleaning choices. Warm water and mild soap will get rid of surface debris quickly. Stay away from harsh chemicals or bleach-based cleaners that might damage the material.

You can boil non-motorized silicone dildos in water for three minutes to sanitize them deeply. This kills most bacteria and germs, which makes your toy truly clean between uses or partners. Motorized silicone toys need gentler care - just wipe them down with a damp cloth and mild soap or a special toy cleaner.

Harness care tips

Each harness material needs its own cleaning method:

• Nylon/Fabric harnesses: You can machine wash these in a garment bag with warm water and mild detergent. Hand washing will make them last longer.

• Leather harnesses: Clean spots with a damp cloth and mild soap. Some leather harnesses can soak briefly in water with mild detergent for a deep clean. These need at least 48 hours to dry fully. Add leather conditioner once dry to stop cracking.

• Neoprene/Rubber harnesses: These are easy to clean - just use toy cleaner or mild soap with warm water. Give them a good rinse and let them air dry.

Storage solutions for longevity

Smart storage keeps your strap-on in great shape between uses. Make sure everything dries completely before putting it away. This stops any mold from growing. Cloth bags work better than plastic for silicone dildos because they let air flow while keeping dust away.

Keep different materials separate during storage. Silicone toys can break down if they touch each other. Hang your harnesses instead of folding them. This works especially well for leather ones that might get permanent creases.

A special storage box for sex toys works great. It keeps everything private and protects your toys from dust, light, and moisture.

Accessories to Enhance Your Experience

Your strap-on experience can reach new heights with accessories that improve pleasure for both partners. Simple additions can turn regular sessions into something extraordinary.

Bullet vibrators and base cushions

Base cushions such as the Bumpher or Honeybunch from Banana Pants create a soft barrier between the dildo base and your body. These cushions prevent pubic bruising during long sessions. The silicone cushions have ridges that press against the wearer's clitoris and add stimulation with each thrust. Most cushions can stretch to fit dildo bases from 1.5" to 3.25" wide, which makes them work with many toys.

Bullet vibrators add a new dimension of pleasure. They fit perfectly into special pockets in certain harnesses or cushions. Many harness designs include small compartments that hold these compact vibrators. This creates direct stimulation for the wearer during thrusting.

Lube types and recommendations

Water-based lubricants are essential for silicone dildos because silicone-based lubes can damage these toys. Oil-based options work great with non-silicone toys but should stay away from latex condoms. Water-based formulas are the safest choice - they clean up easily and work with all toy materials.

Remote-controlled strap on with vibrator

Remote-controlled strap-ons let you adjust vibration patterns and intensity without using your hands. Some models come with multiple motors that target different pleasure points at once. The experience becomes more exciting when your partner holds the remote, letting them control your pleasure while you focus on theirs.

Conclusion

Strap-on dildos create endless possibilities for intimate exploration whatever your gender, sexual orientation, or relationship dynamics. Our guide covers everything from simple components to advanced techniques that show how these versatile toys can boost pleasure for everyone involved. Of course, you need some experimentation to find the perfect combination of harness and dildo, but the experience of finding what works proves just as rewarding as the end result.

Open communication is the life-blood of satisfying strap-on experiences. Your honest conversations with your partner about desires, boundaries, and feedback build trust and mutual pleasure. On top of that, solo practice helps build confidence before sharing the experience with a partner.

Good care makes your investment last longer and keeps you safe. Clean your toys well after each use, store them properly, and use compatible lubricants to maintain excellent condition for years. You'll enjoy many adventures with your favorite accessories this way.

Some people might feel nervous about strap-ons at first, but playful curiosity and patience make all the difference. Small sizes, plenty of lube, and gentle movements should come before more adventurous play. The connection with your partner matters more than performance.

The perfect strap-on waits for you among realistic designs, vibrating options, and fantasy styles. Harnesses come in a variety of styles, from comfortable underwear to adjustable strap systems that will give everyone their ideal fit. Welcome the exploration, focus on pleasure, and enjoy the unique intimacy that strap-on play brings to your relationships.

FAQs

Q1. What is a strap-on dildo and who uses them? A strap-on dildo is a sex toy consisting of a dildo attached to a harness, allowing hands-free penetration. They are used by people of all genders and sexual orientations for various reasons, including enhancing intimacy, exploring new sensations, and addressing physical limitations.

Q2. How do I choose the right strap-on harness? When selecting a strap-on harness, consider factors like comfort, adjustability, and material. Options include underwear-style harnesses for comfort, adjustable strap harnesses for control, and specialized harnesses for different body types. Ensure proper fit and compatibility with your chosen dildo.

Q3. What are some beginner-friendly tips for using a strap-on? For beginners, start by practicing alone to get comfortable wearing the strap-on. Use plenty of lubricant, communicate openly with your partner, and begin with gentle, slow movements. Choose comfortable positions like doggy style or spooning, and gradually work up to more advanced techniques.

Q4. How do I clean and maintain my strap-on dildo and harness? Clean silicone dildos with mild soap and warm water, or boil non-motorized ones for deeper sanitization. For harnesses, follow material-specific care instructions - machine wash fabric harnesses, spot clean leather ones, and hand wash neoprene/rubber types. Always dry thoroughly before storage.

Q5. What accessories can enhance the strap-on experience? Accessories like bullet vibrators, base cushions, and remote-controlled vibrators can add extra stimulation and comfort. Consider water-based lubricants for compatibility with silicone toys. These additions can improve pleasure for both the wearer and receiver during strap-on play.